17 Things To Do When You Get Bored In Your Relationship, Recommended by Experts

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6. Be Goofballs

The fastest way to stop snoozing is to start being silly, Tina B. Tessina, aka Dr. Romance, psychotherapist and author of Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences , tells Bustle. “Make [them] laugh, think of things that are fun, meet some new friends, do something different,” she says. If you’re clowning around, you’ll be too busy laughing to be bored.

Tessina also agrees with Daniels in terms of bringing things back to the beginning: “Replicate some of the things you did when you were first dating,” she says. And don’t just sit around hoping your partner will liven things up. “Take the lead, don’t wait around for him to do it and don’t nag him to do it,” she says. Just do something different, and plan an adventure for the two of you.

7. Do Something New Every Day

“Take one whole week to do one thing a day that breaks your routine, even small things,” Danielle Sepulveres, sεx educator and author of Losing It: The Semi-Scandalous Story of an Ex-Virgin, tells Bustle. If your normal day looks like waking up, going to work, working out, meeting up with a friend or your partner later on in the day, eating dinner and going to sleep, find some way to add something new to that schedule. “Skip the laundry, try a new restaurant, read out loud to each other from your favorite books, take a walk and play FMK with characters from the last TV show you watched together,” Sepulveres suggests.

The list goes on and on and on. “Look up a crazy recipe and make something together,” she says. Whatever you do, find that “one thing that makes the day feel different which can change up your routine for the better, or become a new tradition and make you feel less like you’re in a rut doing the same things over and over,” she says. And don’t just find it — do it.

8. Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone Together

“Get the freak out of your comfort zone,” Rob Alex, who created Sexy Challenges and Mission Date Night with his wife, tells Bustle. “When you feel bored in your relationship, it is time to introduce something new, a new activity, hobbies or a class are great ways to bring more life into your relationship,” he says.

Lots of people will tell you to try something new — and many of my experts did just that — but Alex provides a little context as to why it’s worth doing. Edging out of your comfort zone “gives you something new and exciting to talk about, and great conversation is usually lacking when relationships start to seem boring,” he says. “Stepping out of your comfort zone together as a couple can really be like a breath of fresh air and breath new life into your relationship.”

You’ll have newfound conversation topics, and you’ll be happier and healthier. And don’t shy away from nutty things, like taking salsa lessons or even diving out of an airplane. “The crazier the thing you do, the better, and together you can hold hands and step outside the comfort zone, and in doing so feel your relationship thriving again,” Alex says.

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