For most women, all relationships start out very similarly.
In the beginning, you basically aim to be a modern-day Millennial Stepford Wife.
You eat salad on all of your dates, pretend you don’t have normal bodily functions and even wear makeup to bed because, yes, you want bae to think you do in fact wake up looking this damn flawless every day.
But once you spend a couple months together, the comfort level kicks up and you no longer feel the need to be on your best behavior because you can rest assured bae loves you, flaws and all.
Yep, this is the part where you turn into one of those couples who doesn’t mind doing seriously gross things in front of each other.
New research reveals that relationships hit the comfort phase after exactly 11 months and 24 days – when you’re happy to squeeze each other’s spots, leave the toilet door open and tell all about ex-partners.
The research analysed 2,000 couples and found it takes almost a year to get used to sharing your life and living space with a significant other.
And the key signs you’ve entered the comfort zone include allowing your other half to see you when ill, without make-up on and in your lounging clothes.
Using the toilet without locking the door, feeling free to cry in front of your partner and letting them look after you when poorly are other sure signs of being in a comfortable relationship.
The poll also found having the confidence to tell a partner if their breath is a little smelly or if they need a squirt of deodorant without them taking offence is a strong sign that a relationship has serious potential.
It may seem gross to some, but squeezing each other’s spots or plucking stray hairs is another sign a relationship is definitely comfortable. And the cliche of finishing each other’s sentences still rings true – appearing inside the top 30 signs of a comfortable partnership.
Body confidence was a continuous theme, with being more relaxed about shaving, physical appearance overall and wearing swimwear in front of your partner all being cited as good markers for a relationship lasting the pace.
It’s not always smooth sailing though – a third have been in a relationship where their partner got too comfortable too quickly and the illusion of a perfect relationship is most commonly broken when the man breaks wind in front of his partner.
Nearly a fifth said a new partner had overstepped the mark by getting in touch with their family members too early, or asking about ex-partners.
A spokesperson for Measure digital bowel health test, who commissioned the research, said: ‘It’s interesting to see that it takes nearly a year for people to feel they can really be comfortable around each other.
‘At first we’re very conscious and don’t want to be seen as anything but our best, but gradually over time we let people in more and more as our trust and confidence builds.
‘Some might say the signs you’ve reached that place in a relationship can signal an end to the romance, but it’s a good sign that you’re comfortable in your partner’s presence and can share any topic or worry with them without fear of being judged.’
The followings are the signs of your relationship has reached the ultimate level of comfort (and will go the distance)
THE TOP 30 SIGNS OF A RELATIONSHIP COMFORT ZONE
1. Not wearing make-up
2. Not locking the bathroom door
3. Wearing pyjamas/lounge wear
4. Breaking wind in front of them
5. Not shaving your legs/face
6. Wearing your less attractive/non-matching underwear
7. Doing his/her laundry
8. Going to the toilet with the door open
9. Confiding in them over health concerns
10. Letting them look after you when you’re ill
11. You don’t mind crying in front of them
12. Taking calls/visits from their family
13. ‘Letting yourself go’ without worrying about it
14. Laughing when they take the mickey out of you
15. Letting them have house keys
16. Happy to have a conversation while naked
17. Knowing their views on marriage and kids
18. Telling them when they need a mint/deodorant
19. Shaving in front of them
20. Asking them to squeeze a spot/pluck a hair
21. Not fretting at the prospect of being in swimwear in front of them
22. Showering together
23. Going clothes shopping together
24. Making their lunch to take to work
25. Answering their phone
26. Leaving clothes at each other’s houses
27. Telling them your hang-ups
28. Finishing each other’s sentences
29. Calling them by a pet name
30. Talking about/knowing about ex-partners