You’d think we’d be able to always empathize with the one we love. And usually, we’re good at it. That is, until life gets in the way.
At the end of the day, we’re egocentric beings. We live life through our own eyes and no one else’s. Yet being in a romantic relationship means we need to do our best to put ourselves in the shoes of the person we love.
Empathy is the channel love flows through. It’s the way our souls communicate, the connection allowing for that initial spark. It’s also something that we need to remember to keep working on, especially when our personal lives become convoluted by trivialities.
Remind the person you love that he or she needs to always try to understand how you’re feeling.
Relationships start falling apart the moment we decide we’re happy with things exactly as they are. This is not to say you shouldn’t be happy with the way things are, because you should be, but you should always be aiming to experience new things — together.
What’s the goal of your relationship? If it’s to get married, have kids and grow old together, then your relationship is going to fail. Big goals are certainly important, but what’s more important are the little goals we can create for ourselves everyday.
Passion thrives on novelty. It’s comfort and complacency that kills. If things are starting to feel a bit bland, don’t be afraid to ask to spice things up.
At the end of the day, the only thing you can really ask for is true effort.
People aren’t perfect. You’re just as flawed as your better half. We make mistakes. We lose touch with ourselves, so losing touch with the relationship is only a natural conclusion. We spend most of our lives losing ourselves and finding ourselves all over again. Why would you think a relationship is any different?
This is not about how far things seem to be drifting away from you. This is about how much of an effort you’re both making to keep the love you have alive. If you don’t think your partner is making an effort, then say so. Ask him or her to put you ahead of all the other things he or she has going on.
Of course, be reasonable and willing to compromise. But help your partner understand that without an effort, there’s no real reason to stay part of each other’s lives.