most of us would hope that a difference in race wouldn’t be a point of contention anymore. I’m Iranian-American, and my boyfriend is pretty much as white as they come. To me, that difference has never been worth noting, but it does seem to be an exciting talking point for other people. I often get asked how my parents “feel” about me dating someone “like him.” I have to imagine I wouldn’t get asked this question if I were dating a Persian dude. At the end of the day, questions like that leave me wondering: How are interracial relationships difficult compared to more homogeneous relationships?
The short answer: There are a lot more difficulties that people in interracial relationships face than you might realize. A recent Reddit thread asked ladies to share their experiences with interracial relationships and how they differ from other relationships, and their responses are very telling.
Strangers made assumptions about their religious backgrounds.
Single now but was in a long term interracial relationship. The biggest surprise to me was all the random people commenting that one of us would have to convert religions.
We were both atheists.
People sometimes make predictions about which parent their children will (or won’t) look like.
People probably don’t say things like how your children “won’t look like” their father.